It’s taken a while, but let’s brush off the cobwebs around here – shall we?!

Honestly – life is great here. We’ve traveled and celebrated so much this year and I’ve just kinda neglected this space since the fiasco that was renovating our house went haywire. (More on that later. 🙃)

Here’s what I’ve learned while I was away, and what I intend on doing here going forward:

1. When it comes to renovation – either use a contractor that you know and trust personally, or learn how to do it yourself. I am so serious. I won’t probably get into the whole nightmare contractor saga in an effort to save myself the stress – but all I can say is NEVER AGAIN.  Even the most complex and tiring of projects were a breeze in comparison to dealing with the endless deception, *and* I saved a cool $10K+ that we were able to put towards the wedding, etc. Does this mean I know mostly everyone who works at our local Home Depot now? Yes. Am I the hottest person in there? Usually. It’s called putting in the WERK, babes. Get into it.

2. I thought I had stopped giving a f*ck a long time ago. Turns out there were still some people pleasing tendencies I didn’t even RECOGNIZE I was holding onto with an iron grip – c’est la vie. No advice here, just vibes. Maybe a reminder to look inward! The truer I’ve been to myself, the happier I am. Sometimes that involved cutting out toxic people that had long overstayed their welcome in my life, and others required introspection and habit changes. It’s a balancing act we’ll all never fully figure out. But reminding myself that I’m in my own lane and really only responsible for my own happiness has been transformational. Kindness and self sacrifice aren’t one in the same, you know? 

3. Don’t save the fine china for some mystical day in the future. As we’ve unpacked all of our things into the house, I realized just how many luxuries I’d been squirreling away for “when” instead of the here and now. Candles. Fragrance. Bedding. Glassware. You name it, I’ve bought it – whether it’s from Goodwill or Neiman Marcus. And while I’m careful with everything, I’ve started using it all. I’m learning to trust that whatever tomorrow holds can only be better, and gratitude for what we’ve got is best spent enjoying it. This isn’t rocket science – but that’s alright! Be the fancy babe you’ve dreamed so carefully of being. You’re worth it!

Alright. Enough for today – but here’s my plan. Keep on sharing. Like I’ve said – the travel’s been nonstop, so maybe a few recaps and reviews. More house things. The occasional emotional word vomit like today. But I’m going to try and be here, and I hope you’ll join me too! 

XOXO,